The Truth About Teenage Girls

I have three girls, which means that at every opportunity, strangers like to tell me how hellish my life will be when they are teenagers.

“Oh….You have three daughters? I feel so sorry for you. I had only one and she made me miserable when she was a teenager!”

Many people tell me this while my kids are stranding right next to me. As if an almost 11 year-old, an 8 year-old, and a 4 year-old can’t understand English enough to know their future is being condemned.

This is what I thought about last night while eating pizza at a restaurant with six pre-teen girls to celebrate my own 5th grader’s upcoming eleventh birthday. As they munched on garlic bread, their full-bellied laughs bounced off one another. One girl would start a story and the next one would finish it with an imaginative twist. Their creative narratives wove together as intricately as a Judy Blume novel. Their jokes were smart and sophisticated, and their treatment of each other generous and respectful.

I’ve no doubt that some people have a terrible time raising teenage daughters. Perhaps I’ll be one of them. But I wish been-there-done-that parents would censor themselves just a little bit and stop dissing future teenage girls.

Because I think the amazing young women I dined with last night deserve a fresh start and a chance to prove them wrong.


4 thoughts on “The Truth About Teenage Girls

  1. Loved it…..and you are so right. As one who ‘ has been there done that’, I can tell you I had a wonderful teenager and a great experience……so don’t worry, it is possible!!!!! (btw, we did have a couple of difficult years when she was in her early 20’s πŸ™‚ )

  2. I think everyone’s experience is different. Teenagedom is challenging. It can be a rough time for both parents and kids, though it doesn’t have to be. Helping a child transition to adulthood is hard, even if you don’t have the “typical” teenage issues to manage. I do wish people wouldn’t say things like that in front of kids, though. Because you can’t predict the future, and because kids worry enough as it is.

  3. World is changing so are the teenagers, well its definitely not OK talking such things in front f them. I hope people learn that basic etiquette . personally I feel girls are wonderful gift to the parents I am sure one day they all will make you proud. Hang in there.

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